For example, Ira, the husband's need to play solitaire all of the time while keeping a cool distance from emotional drama sounded much like my husband and my father-in-law. I loved Ira from the beginning, because I knew beneath his carefully carved out unobtrusive personality was a guy with deep emotional ties to the people he loved dearly. Ira's wife, Maggie, was quite a busybody, but no matter how annoying she became - Ira loved still loved her.
Maggie wasn't my favorite character, but reflecting upon my own flaws I certainly didn't wish for her death in the story, rather I tried to understand the loneliness she felt. Maggie's children has recently left home. Maggie wanted to desperately hold on to them.
Maggie's character needed a dynamic change from something she had been to something she could be with her husband and as a person on her own. This change couldn't happen unless she changed her way of thinking.
She couldn't see what worked in her life. For example, Maggie couldn't accept Ira and his flaws without losing the idealism she held in the things she could not control. Her journey is not unlike my own as a mother, and like my mother. All moms have a tough time letting go of their kids. I can't dislike Maggie for holding onto her children a little longer.
I highly recommend this book to every married couple and all mothers. For Maggie, a day trip to a friend's funeral changed her way of thinking, but for me it was watching the love between my mother and father-in-law, and appreciating my husband a little more every day. Thank you, Anne Tyler.
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